Work is a great place to meet a bunch of amazing people, who can become your good friends or even something more. After all, these are the people you spend most of your time with during the day and it is completely natural to get attached to some in one way or another.
However, before you get involved in a workplace romance, you first need to know the difference between being just polite, friendly or flirty. Sometimes, it can be really hard to figure out this line because of professionalism or a company policy on banning relationships between coworkers.
That’s why it’s crucial for you to be cautious when considering an office romance. It can seem quite unprofessional or disrespectful to company policy if you get involved in a relationship with a coworker. Plus if things go south, it can be truly hard and painful to look at him every day.
Nevertheless, if you’re still up for it and you’re already looking for signs your coworker likes you, then this article is for you.
Or it is if you’re just trying to avoid that awkward situation where he confesses his love for you and you feel a little bit less than nothing for him. Maybe you’re in search of signs a married female coworker likes you or signs a married male coworker likes you as you want to end things before they cross the line.
Either way, you’ll see that figuring out the person of your interest is not so hard once you know what to look for and that there are a lot of giveaway signs that can tell you the truth about whether a coworker likes you.
How To Tell If A Coworker Likes You?
Well, if you’re wondering how to tell if a coworker likes you and whether you have a chance of a workplace romance, all you have to do is listen to our dating advice expert and look closely at the following subtle and not so subtle signs a coworker likes you and if you can connect his behavior to most of it, everything is clear.
The same goes for the signs a married coworker likes you—if he is displaying the behavior patterns described below, it is time to run for your life because he definitely wants more than friendship. Also, if you’re a man who is wondering, “What are the signs a female coworker likes me?” then read the article because there are not many differences between the subtle signs a female coworker likes you but is hiding it and the signs that a guy from your work is into you.
1. He chit-chats with you more than he does with others
There are a few reasons why someone from your work might talk to you the most. It is possible that this guy at work likes you, he needs something (maybe for you to cover his shift) or if you just started there, it can seem that he is just trying to be polite so you don’t feel left out or something. However, in this situation. the important thing is to pay attention to other big signs from the list as well and the topics you two are talking about.
If it’s something personal or basically non-important work-related stuff, it could just be him looking for a way to spend time with you.
2. He smiles at you in meetings
Whenever you look at him, this guy maintains eye contact and smiles back at you. If you are the one holding a presentation or talking, he encourages you and supports whatever you say.
You may even catch him looking at you and he will look away at the same moment. This is usually the most obvious sign that someone likes you, because he just can’t help it.
Just looking at you makes him happy and puts a smile on his face. Besides, if he’s unable to hide it in meetings, it means he is seriously interested in you.
3. He brings you coffee
Without you asking him, this guy remembers what kind of coffee you love and he brings it to you regularly, followed by flowers he picks up somewhere on the way or chocolate bars and lollipops. If you’re out of office supplies, he brings them to you, so you don’t have to bother.
You may think that he does this for everyone or at least for every woman in the building but pay attention to his behavior around you. If he suddenly gets nervous when he’s next to your desk and seems clumsy while around you, it’s because he wants to be perfect for you, which puts him under pressure, thus him being nervous and clumsy.
4. He wants to know how your day outside work went
Here’s the thing—men who are only interested in getting in your pants will rarely ask about your personal life or about anything outside the work environment or even office banter. Even if they do, they won’t really pay attention to the answer and they will just pretend to be interested in what you have to say.
However, if a guy asks you about something and if he’s genuinely interested in what you have to say and he actually remembers the things that you say, he is, without a doubt, interested in you.
Not only that—he’s a catch as well. A man who listens and cares about the things you are talking about is a man worth having around.
5. He offers you lunch dates
When your male coworker constantly insists on spending his lunch break with you, the first thing that goes through your mind is that he wants to be good friends with you. However, it can also be a telltale sign that this guy at work likes you.
He clearly wants to get you out of the office, where he can get your undivided attention because it’s hard to get comfortable and relaxed when you’re at work. When you’re surrounded by your bosses and other coworkers, there is no way you’d be relaxed and interested in a little bit of naughty chit-chatting.
He needs you to be relaxed so you can get to know each other better and maybe arrange another date. After all, he probably heard the saying that a way to a woman’s heart is through her stomach.
6. He sits next to you in meetings
When you first notice that somehow this guy always ends up sitting next to you, it can seem like something that happens accidentally but trust me, it’s not. Moreover, if there are other telltale signs from the list, boy, he has seriously got the hots for you!
It’s a perfect way for him to be as close to you as possible and maybe accidentally touch your leg with his or pat your back while you’re talking, as a subtle sign of support. Either way, he will use this opportunity to flirt with you in other not so obvious ways and it is a good sign that he is into you.
He wants to be close to you so he can show you that he is there, that you have his support no matter what. Isn’t that adorable?
7. He touches you accidentally
He bumps into you in the hallway and when you’re on your lunch break, his hand always swiftly and gently touches yours. Or when he is complimenting your new haircut, he will use the chance to touch it.
Unless you have seriously tight and small hallways or he’s incredibly clumsy, which I don’t think is the case, he is definitely drawn to you.
You see, when we are attracted to someone, our bodies attract as well. It’s something we can’t actually control, like we have no control over with whom we fall in love.
But hey, at least there is something interesting to look for on a dull day at the office.
8. He offers you help with work
No matter how busy this man is, he always has time to stop by your desk and see how you’re doing and if you need any help. He is the first one to give you a hand when you’re having a hard time with just about anything; he offers to carry heavy stuff, to fix a printer or to assist you with anything that you have to do.
However, he still respects it when you say no to him, because he’s not trying to show you how to do it or that he’s better at it; he simply wants to help you because it makes him feel good and gives him a chance to be around you even more.
On the other hand, if he gets all offended and mean to you after you turn down his help, be wary of him. This could be a big sign that he is looking for a quick way to get into your panties or to prove that he’s better than you are and that is not a man who can give you the healthy relationship you deserve.
9. He defends you in front of other coworkers
According to most dating advice, one of the big signs that a guy at work likes you is the fact that he always takes your side at work. He gets protective whenever he sees that you might be in trouble and never allows you to go through a hard time alone.
Whether it’s offering to walk you to your car, to stand up for you in meetings or if someone bad-mouths you, he’s there to be your knight in shining armor who defends your honor.
The best part about this is that it really shows the kind of man he is. He could remain quiet and let them trash-talk you while he nods and does nothing.
Instead, he defends you even if they go after him or even if it means he will take part of the blame and anger for you. And if that doesn’t make him a true knight, I don’t know what does.
10. He gives you funny nicknames
Another two of the subtle signs that a coworker likes you are the inside jokes and the nickname game you two have.
Men love to tease and they love to be teased. It may be friendly teasing but let’s be honest ladies, we can tell the difference.
There is a difference in the way he jokes with you and the kind of nickname he gives you. If he acts all friendly, there is no chemistry and you’ll see long stares and smiles.
However, when there is something more than friendship, he blushes and stutters while joking with you. There is that split second when you catch him staring at you while telling you an inside joke, waiting for your reaction, completely vulnerable, before he masks it with another smile and a stupid joke.
11. He remembers and notices everything about you
When a girl likes a guy, she will pay attention to every single detail about him. Well, men are not much different.
One of the sure signs a male coworker has a thing for you is definitely the fact that he never misses your new haircut or the fact that you’ve changed your perfume. Also, if he remembered something you posted on your social media profile weeks ago and he asked you how it went, that’s another obvious sign he fancies you.
Better yet, if he remembered your birthday is coming up soon and he asked about your plans, that could mean he has some plans of his own. Or maybe he surprised you with giving you something you really love.
12. He praises you to other coworkers
“Hey, you know who could do it perfectly? She could, you know she slayed it last month!” The thing is, we all know when someone goes behind our back and says something.
Whether it’s good or bad, it somehow always finds a way to us. And if people come to you, talking about how he has your back and has praised you or he’s actually the reason your boss recognized your work, the boy has fallen head over heels for you.
Besides, he obviously doesn’t care if he made it public by praising you, he just wants what’s best for you and he’s glad to help you get it.
13. He tries to figure out your relationship status
There is no doubt about one thing: this man is interested in your relationship status. Maybe he snooped around your social media profiles to get more information or tried to subtly find out more about your real life outside work; the point is that he wants to know whether you’re single or taken.
Even if he never asked you directly about your love life, he asked about your weekend plans with, “Someone special, eh?” or he asked how last night went and you could tell that he was relieved and happy when you told him that you spent it alone or with your cat.
You can tell that he wants to ask you something about your personal life but he’s too polite to do so or too afraid of the answer. Whatever the reason is, if you noticed he did, now you know why that was so.
14. There’s always something to talk about
He always has some new funny videos for you to see and something to talk to you about. It doesn’t matter how irrelevant it is, for him, it seems like his life depends on it.
Also, he has no problem coming to you for help with the most mundane things, just so he can talk to you. He’s also interested in your real life outside of work and wants to share his with you.
15. His shifts suddenly match yours
You noticed that he’s at work at the same time as you are and the thing is, his shifts rarely matched yours before. It could be a coincidence but if there are more not so subtle signs a male coworker likes you from this list to be found in his behavior, then it’s pretty obvious that he is into you. Plus if he offers you a ride home or even as company if you’re staying late, bingo! He’d kill to be your boyfriend.
His behavior is a good sign that he is using the opportunity to spend some time with you in your work environment as a chance to get closer to you. He likes you so much that he’ll even settle to talk to you using office banter just to approach to you in any way.
16. His body language tells you
When you’re trying to figure out how to tell if a coworker likes you, the first things you ought to pay attention to are this guy’s body language and his eyes.
There are so many subconscious body language signs of flirty behavior a guy who likes you is sending you that it’s actually pretty easy to look for them once you know what to look for. He doesn’t have to flirt with you in an obvious way but for example, he’ll be constantly fidgeting with his fingers, always looking for an excuse to touch you (moving a hair from your face, tapping you on the back or touching your shoulder, etc.). His body is also always faced toward you as a way of telling you that he is open to getting to know you better and he wants to become closer.
Another great giveaway is mirroring your movements. If you cross your arms, he’ll cross his too. And when you’re talking, you have his undivided attention; it’s almost like the rest of the world disappeared and you’re the only one left.
Also, he will do his best to maintain eye contact every time he has the chance to, sometimes without being aware of doing so. However, don’t get discouraged if he avoids eye contact at all costs because that is actually a sure sign that he is too shy to even look at you because he is scared that you’ll get to the bottom of his intentions or ridicule his feelings.
17. He makes excuses to see you outside of work
This one depends on his imagination but whatever the excuse is, the reason behind it is always the same. He’s so into you that he’ll do anything just to see you.
He will forget some paperwork and reach out to you for it or there’s some movie night and chill at a bar and he really wants you to be there. Or he suddenly remembered about a certain deadline and he would really appreciate your help and in return, he’ll buy you drinks.
18. He goes on his break at the same time as you
No matter how much work he has left and even if it’s not the time he usually goes on a break, it matches yours all of a sudden. He is always so pleasantly surprised that you’re there too as he was just thinking about something funny to talk to you about.
He will even offer to take you somewhere on the break, depending on how long it is. And trust me, to him, it is never long enough.
19. He agrees with you on work-related stuff
Having someone who always has your back is amazing. Especially when you know that he respects your opinions and knowledge in the work field and he is not just after you for your looks.
There is a huge difference between agreeing with everything you say and supporting you when you need it. A man who is attracted to you physically will nod his head all the time and make you feel like some sort of goddess.
However, a man who fell in love with your brilliant mind and personality will support you when it matters. No one is perfect and we all make mistakes but he always has your back, no matter how badly you screw up or how well you succeed.
And he makes sure that everyone else knows it. That’s what truly matters—someone who knows you’re not perfect but still makes you feel like it.
20. He asks you out
Now comes the biggest and greatest sign that a man is trying to have an office romance with you—he asks you out. Not on a group hangout or team bonding or for margaritas with staff after work.
After finding out more about your love life and realizing you’re single, he asks you out, just the two of you. Maybe he didn’t use the word ‘date’ but it still is one.
Which leaves me just to wish you all the luck in this world and congratulate you on getting a date.
And who knows? Maybe you’ll get a happy ending after all!