There is no relationship in the world that will not come with it a fair share of complications and difficulties. We are all going to go through our fair share of highs and lows in love.
And that is part of what makes love in healthy relationships so valuable. The struggle to attain true love is what makes it so worthwhile in the end. However, true love isn’t necessarily something that we can just get whenever we want. Sometimes, we will have to take a couple of wrong turns and go through a few rough patches along the way.
There will be times wherein you will find yourself in a relationship that just isn’t built to work or function correctly. And whenever that’s the case, you need to have the self-awareness and the presence of mind to actually leave that relationship behind.
You don’t want to be staying stuck in a relationship that isn’t right for you. You are only going to end up prolonging the inevitable. And you would be wasting your time in the process.
You don’t have to feel so bad about cutting ties with someone you were once in love with. That’s perfectly normal. Yes, it’s completely unfortunate that you would have to cut your relationship short.
It’s unfortunate that you would ever have to say goodbye to love. However, there are times wherein it’s the thing that you really have to do.
Because if you continue to hold on to a love that is wrong for you, then you are depriving yourself of the opportunity to have true love walk into your life. It’s sad whenever you are forced to burn certain bridges. But you always have to find a way to power through and move on.
There are just some people who don’t understand this. There are those of us who stay in bad relationships even though it’s practically killing us on the inside.
You have probably encountered a few of these people in your lifetime. They are so clearly miserable about how their relationships have turned out.
And yet, they still stay in their relationships anyway. It’s very weird and you might not really get it. However, it turns out that there are some very sound psychological reasons as to why some people continue to stay in bad relationships. If you want to understand these people better, then continue scrolling down below to read out a few of these reasons.
1. They are afraid of being lonely.
There are also some people who would be just too afraid of being alone. They would much rather stay in a relationship that makes them feel terrible than be single.
They don’t really find comfort in being on their own. They aren’t able to extract happiness within themselves and they have to rely on their relationships for a sense of security.
2. They cling to the hope that things might change.
Some people are just hopeful that things might change in the relationship. They don’t give up on their love because they believe that there is a chance that things are going to pick up for them.
They hope that the relationship is eventually going to get better and they don’t want to pull the plug just yet.
3. They know they wouldn’t be able to support themselves financially on their own.
There is also the matter of money. There are some people who stay in relationships because they are financially dependent on their partners. They know that they would never be able to support themselves on their own should they choose to leave the relationship.
4. They stay together for the kids.
There are so many couples in marriages who still choose to stay together for the sake of the kids. They think that separating would create too much trauma and damage in the life of the child.
However, what they don’t realize is that there are studies out there that confirm that kids who grow up in unhappy households turn out to be less successful in life.
5. They have grown desensitized to abuse.
There are some people who will be so broken and destroyed by abuse and manipulation in a relationship to the point that they wouldn’t really know that they have other alternatives.
They will see it as normal behavior. They will normalize abuse and they will think that everything is fine even when it’s clearly not.
6. They think that their relationship is “good enough”.
There is a substantial difference between having a relationship that is good and a relationship that is just good enough. A relationship doesn’t have to be good for it to be good enough.
And that’s what a lot of people who stay in bad relationships feel. They know that they’re relationships aren’t ideal. But they also think that it might be better than anything other alternatives that are available to them.