You might be feeling a little sketchy or guilty about the fact that you’re reading this article right now. You saw the title and you felt a little bit of shame about wanting to make your ex miss you. You might even think that you’re pathetic for still being hung up over how your ex is feeling about you. You might not want others to know about the fact that you’re reading this article right now. But here’s the thing: you shouldn’t be ashamed at all. And later on, you’ll find out why.
You might think that wanting your ex to miss you after you’ve broken up is unhealthy. And you might even go so far so as to assume that you’re being manipulative and obsessive if you deliberately try some thing out to manufacture that longingness and emptiness he feels without you. Yes, there are probably a few resources in the form of books and online articles that you can use to go about your diabolical plot. But it’s important to point out that a lot of these pieces of “advice” aren’t really going to help you in the long term. They aren’t going to help you win him back – which is your ultimate goal anyway.
Breakups are always rough. You meet someone and you fall in love. You grow attached to this persona and you become accustomed to a certain way of living – a life that revolves around having this person at your side. And then when you break up, you are forced to abandon all of that. You are forced to confront a new world wherein you are alone; wherein you are without the love of your life and you have to make the most out of the very few things that you have in that moment. And it hurts even more to know that you’ve broken up but you still want to get back together with your ex.
Remember that yes, it’s important for your ex to miss you if you want him to realize that he never should have ended things with you in the first place. But making him miss you isn’t the end of the story. It’s not the long-term priority. The real goal is getting back together, right? Think bigger. The bigger your approach, the better the outcome is going to be. The one thing that you have to remember once you go through a breakup with someone is this: no matter how bad you both may have left things, there is always a chance to rekindle that flame.
No matter how much you might have hurt one another, people can always find a way to forgive and move on. So what exactly do you have to do to improve your chances of getting back together? And how can you do it in a way that is healthy and sustainable? Here are a few general rules that you might want to keep in mind throughout the whole process.
1. Don’t be so quick about it.
Give him time to miss you. If you act a little too hastily, you will risk coming off as desperate and weak. And you don’t want that. Besides, he probably still has ill feelings for you. Let him calm down for a bit before you come into contact with him again.
2. And in the meantime, focus on building yourself back up.
And while waiting for him to calm down, just focus on being yourself. Build a life that you can actually be proud of. So that by the time you see each other again, he will see just how amazing a person you have become. And it will be harder for him to resist getting back together with you.
3. Don’t obsess over what he’s doing.
And don’t be pathetic by obsessing over what he’s up to. Really take that time to focus on yourself. Find out what parts of your life you can improve on. And think about what you can do to make sure that you’re a better girlfriend in the future.
At the end of the day, you’re going to have to come to terms with the fact that not all love stories are meant to have happy endings. And if you and your ex just aren’t compatible with one another, then things are never going to work out no matter how hard either of you might try. And that’s just a fact of the world. So yes, there is a chance that the both of you are going to be able to work through your problems and get back to a place of love and affection. But if things don’t work out that way, then you’re both going to have that that’s just how the universe intends it. You can’t force love no matter how much you might want to; no matter how much you might be willing to give up. Love only comes when it’s meant to. And you’re just going to have to be patient and mature enough to wait for it.